The Two of Pentacles and the Juggler’s Lesson for Life

 

 

“The trick to juggling is determining which balls are made of rubber and which ones are made of glass.” ~ Anonymous

 

 

 

Once there was a man who made his living as a juggler in his tiny village. The local children gathered every afternoon to watch his performance. They cheered, clapped, threw down a few coins and asked for more. The juggler was happy to oblige and continued his juggling tricks long after sundown.  Although the juggler provided a great deal of joy to the village children, his bills were late, his children were hungry and his wife was very unhappy.

So the juggler set out for the neighboring villages to perform his juggling act. He worked long hours to build his juggling business and before long his skills became legendary and were in great demand. The juggler was happy to be able to send home large sums of money, until he received word that his crops were dying, his wife had fallen ill and the children missed him immensely. 

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Looking at the Two of Pentacles above we see a man concentrating on balancing two spheres. As one ball goes up, the other comes down and we’re left to wonder how long the process will go on before the juggler tires, gives up, or drops one or both globes. In the background are two ships at sea. They smoothly ride the waves of the ocean, or cruise the ups and downs of life.

Many of us feel as though we must be master jugglers, often struggling to find a happy medium between work, family and play. The process of constant multi-tasking can take a toll on our health and quality of life and relationships. The willingness to delegate some of our responsibilities to others is often a frightening proposition. We worry that no one else is capable of taking adequate care of our business, home or family.

The Two of Pentacles reminds us that maintaining balance in our lives is important. Flexibility is crucial, as we often see our lives going in one direction, but circumstances can force us to quickly change course. There’s a bit of childlike playfulness in the way this juggler performs his balancing act. Life often presents us with challenges, but if we see these  challenges as opportunities to grow, improve and advance it will ultimately benefit us and those around us.

We can help ourselves greatly when we decide which balls to balance, which to delegate and which to drop by assessing, organizing and prioritizing professional and personal responsibilities. Restructuring, delegating or even abandoning unproductive methods can make our daily lives run more smoothly.

Some questions to ask ourselves:

What responsibilities do you see yourself juggling?

What, if any, aspects of your professional and personal life are being sacrificed by your juggling/multi-tasking?

Which jobs, tasks and responsibilities would you classify as rubber (resilient and durable)? Which are glass (fragile and delicate)?

As a result of your juggling act, which problems do you see as the most damaging to you, your business or your family?

Which tasks do you feel most comfortable delegating to others?

Hectic, stressful lives can often get the better of many of us. Celebrating the progress made along the way will be our reward in the end.

 

Spare The Rod And Respect Your Child

Update: Please read my Suite101 article which makes a very compelling argument against corporal punishment. It contains important study findings.

This article appeared in one of my earlier blogs back in 2007. I still stand by my opinion that spanking a child is wrong. What do you think?

I’m shopping in the supermarket and a woman isn’t watching where she’s going, she runs into the back of my leg, hurting me and doesn’t say she’s sorry. I’m upset that she was unaware I was right in front of her and she didn’t apologize, so I slap her.

I am in a parking lot just about to pull into a parking space. Another woman quickly darts in front of me and zips into my parking space. I know she’s seen me, but she’s indifferent to the fact that she rudely cut in front of me. I find another parking space and catch up to the parking space thief. I walk up to her and smack her.

These two examples are a bit unbelievable. I would never spank or slap another adult under any circumstance. The other adult could call the police and have me arrested or perhaps hit me back causing injury. So why is it okay for parents to spank their children? I’ve witnessed parents slap their children for slapping a sibling. What does that teach a child? Slapping is wrong so I’m going to slap you? Why is it many adults think that children are personal property, miniature people who don’t deserve the same respect as any adult? To get respect you must give respect. Too many adults are oblivious to that.

The concept of spanking and corporal punishment in the home and elsewhere is highly supported by Conservative Christians quick to refer to the bible as the ultimate authority in terms of child rearing and punishment. ”Spare the rod and spoil the child” is often a favorite phrase Conservative Christians quote when justifying corporal punishment.

Spanking teaches a child to be more aggressive and violent. Studies have shown that children who are spanked often are more likely to have drug and alcohol problems later in life. Spanking often leads to a higher rate of family violence and child abuse. Why wouldn’t it stand to reason that a child who is taught that it is okay to hit when someone exhibits unpleasant behavior imitate the same way of thinking?

Spanking is an “in the moment” solution to an immediate issue. Parents often need a “time out” just as children often do. It is never a good idea for a parent to spank when feeling out of control. There are more effective disciplinary measures to take when correcting poor behavior. Time out and reasoning is often underrated and can be much better alternatives to spanking.

It is still perfectly legal to spank your children so long as no marks or bruises are left on a child. That’s ridiculous. It’s shameful, degrading and incredibly embarrassing for a child to be spanked, particularly in public. This leaves no visible marks, but psychological marks can last a lifetime.

**Just a little footnote: Dr. Phil recently aired an episode on spanking after my blog was published and I thought I’d share what he had to say on the subject. Commentator “Lacywing”, you might want to take notes:

See what Dr. Phil has to say about spanking here.

See the crazy-ass comments I received in response to this post here.

Step Away From The Facebook

I doubt even Mark Zuckerberg anticipated what Facebook would one day become. Just about everyone has a Facebook account. In theory, it was a good idea. And it still can be when used for good instead of evil. But as with most things internet-related some people have a tendency to abuse the ambiguity it provides.

You’re mad at your mailman? Trash him on Facebook

Relationship status updates, wall comments, photos and friends lists are all prime targets for those seeking to let someone (and everyone else) know they have an issue with a friend or loved one. We get the idea. You’re angry at your spouse, son, daughter, mother, father, mailman, but do you have to make it public? Some people enjoy having an audience and they use social networks like Facebook to their fullest attention-getting advantage. You never have to actually let the person know you’re angry with them. All you have to do is change your relationship status, remove your photo tag or defriend them. Not only do they now know, but so does everyone else.

Exhibitionism on Facebook?

Chances are, full-blown arguments have appeared on your Facebook feed a time or two. And you may be wondering, don’t these people realize everyone can see this? Are they trying to get their “friends” to take sides? Or perhaps they’re looking for sympathy or an opportunity to fill onlookers in on the gory details? Is this a new form of exhibitionism?

You’re pissed off, have a Facebook page and you know how to use it

Passive/aggressive behavior is not a new term but social networks certainly give it a whole new meaning. Why would you possibly want to call someone or speak to them face to face to let them know they’ve done something to piss you off when you can do it subtly (or not so subtly) on Facebook? After all, how would you gain hundreds of supporters during a private conversation?

Everything you need to know you learned in kindergarten

Remember what we learned in kindergarten? Play nice? Get along with each other? Use your nice words?  Why are these simple lessons forgotten as soon as we sit down at a computer screen? You aren’t anonymous on Facebook. Words hurt whether they are written or spoken. There are consequences for your actions. Think before you write. Step away from the Facebook and take some time to cool off. Ask yourself, “Is this something I would say or do in real life?” Most often the answer is probably not. Facebook doesn’t ruin relationships. People ruin relationships.

Facebook – The Good, The Bad And The Ugly

 

I sometimes wonder if Mark Zuckerberg had any idea where his social networking gold mine would lead us. Sure he knew he had a good idea and soon saw the money-making potential, but did he stop to think how Facebook would change and even ruin lives?

It’s estimated that 1 out of every 5 divorce petitions sites Facebook as one of the contributing factors. Facebook makes it easy to reconnect with old flames and strike up new “friendships”. Sending someone a friend request can soon become a full blown online romance.

Broken friendships and family ties can often be a result of online misunderstandings. Political and religious debates aren’t uncommon on Facebook causing hurt feelings, arguments and estranged relationships. Hiding behind the computer screen often desensitizes us and leads us to forget how much words can hurt, whether spoken or typed. People often type things they would never consider saying in a face to face conversation.

There have been cases of parents who’ve spent more time on their Facebook wall than taking care of their children. Sadly, a Colorado mother was so busy perusing her Facebook page that she neglected her one-year-old son while he was in the tub. Unfortunately he died as a result of his mother’s failure to tear herself away from her crops, fish or mafia war.

People love having a diversion from their everyday, ho hum lives. Facebook fills a void that many people find appealing. Updating everyone on your every move and watching and waiting for responses is an ego boost to some Facebook users. Pretending you have 1000 or more friends makes you feel popular and loved. But it’s a fantasy. Of course not every Facebook user falls in to this fanatical group. Some people understand how to use social networking sites in moderation. But, some people do not.

How long will it be before someone sues Mark Zuckerberg, claiming Facebook lead them to commit adultery or child neglect?  We do live in a highly litigious society afterall. Or perhaps sometime in the near future there will be a social network addiction group formed that will have meetings in local churches nationwide. There’s a whole new field opening up to lawyers and therapists thanks to Facebook.